We all know there are aspects of fashion and beauty each sex finds attractive- and you may have heard women say they’re dressing for men or women. When discussing womenswear, there are “guy shoes,” maybe sexy vixen stilettos, and there are dresses that are a girl’s girl, something men might find too something or other… Is it OK to dress for your lover- once, occasionally, or changing up your style, though?
Fashion, our personal style is how we express our identity to the world, it’s in essence the visual representation of who we perceive ourselves to be. Is it acceptable then to allow your lover to request or demand that you wear something, put on a different style of makeup…or to dress or look differently entirely?
What might your lover make you wear if they had full control?
Ultimately, if this person met you the way they wanted you not to look and pursued you, then I think it would be unacceptable if it was a demand or ultimatum. In the case of womenswear, I think it’s only in the early part of the last century women gained any leeway in fashion liberation, and to be forced to wear tight fitting, sexy, or anything other than your style is an affront to women, not feminism. You can have a suggestion made, you can be told your style or look isn’t attractive, but you you shouldn’t tolerate being told what to wear and how or else. But What if I’m OK with it?: I’d suggest you really step back and consider if it’s your style, how it makes you feel- both the style or look and changing your look- before deciding you’re really OK with it. Believe me, I think you must do certain things for your lover, and often don’t understand how comfortable some people are in front of theirs,
Have you changed your style or appearance for a lover? Explain the situation, how it made you feel, was it a request or demand, what you said or did- comment below.
Perry Uwanawich is an American fashion designer and illustrator- AuricWear.com; fashion, beauty, and lifestyle blogger at Subversive.Style; and Spirituality Lifestyle Blogger at TheGypsyMystic.com. Perry has a Bachelor of Science in Marketing from The Wayne Huizenga School of Business and Entrepreneurship, two certifications in Fashion Design and Industrial Sewing, and has a background in graphic design, marketing, journalism, and fashion design.
Perry Uwanawich launched two fashion collections, the first called Deity Greek Wear, while enrolled full-time in college, and the second in 2020 called Auric Wear available at AuricWear.com and on Etsy. While pursuing a Certification in Fashion Design, Marketing, Public Relations, and Photography, he became the Parsons Teen Vogue Ambassador and created multimedia content which was included in the course. He completed another Certification in Industrial Sewing and was placed as an Industrial Sewing Machine Operator in a Rhode Island mill, working in production sewing for Military, Bags, and Medical Health industries.
Perry Uwanawich has worked in retail, acted as a graphic designer for multiple brands creating graphic prints for screenprinted garments. His marketing experience spans several industries from Fashion to Media, Medical Billing to the Medical Field- he's created graphics, logos, digital and print media assets, designed and managed websites (HTML, XHTML, CSS, WordPress…), managed social media accounts, and created marketing campaigns and ad campaigns which drove significant traffic in the local and national markets for respective industries. He has experience with photo and video editing, re-touching, motion graphics, and also worked as a freelance makeup artist working in Beauty as well as SFX makeup.
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